Scanning this memory bank and gleaning material that can be used to reinvent yourself to be happier is key, says Barbara Becker-Holstein, psychologist and author of Enchanted Self: A Positive Therapy.

• 例如，一个过去更喜欢利他主义者的人能够扫描过去，知道她们不喜欢小学里的女童子军，那样的话，就成为排除成为一个参加家长-老师协会的母亲。